Contradictory

TV-discussion between two women in the peak of their lives, both in prosperous familysituations, both with jobs and both with nice husbands. The task is wether the family is a good constellation to live in, is it the ultimate dream?

Lady to the left, in picture, tries to emphasize the obvious risks there are for a woman, to live in such a secretive social form as with only two adults, one man one woman. Through history people have lived in bigger groups, the familycircle contained all kinds of siblings, aunts, oncles and cousins. Today, in our country, the family could, with bad luck, become a social trap, and in most cases it becomes to disadvantage for the woman in the relationship, regarding she gets difficulties to suceed in career and her opportunities to work for a good income to be able to support herself are being reduced. Statistics say that the male often finds himself with a higher income when he becomes a father, the woman, on the other hand, finds herself with a lower, mysterious. Seems society wants to great the father but doesn´t care much about the mother. And these are statistic facts.

Lady to the right, in picture, claims that the family, that is, man and woman and some two or three kids, is what everyone, especially women, should strive for, it´s by all means the best way of living. Society problems in general are not relevant here in this debate, she says, in small families the woman always has the whole and complete power, she´s the one managing the home and household, she´s the one who takes care of and educates the children and she´s the one making all decisions concerning most things about the family. The man has nothing or little to say in such a constellation, nowhere else woman has such opportunities to hold power as in the family situation.

The possibilty of these to opponents to agree to some extent, was obviously very poor. What sort of thread would be appropriate to dabate here, where are the actual problems and disagreements worth talking about, and how come these two women are in such a sharp contradiction to eachother? I ask myself, and that´s what the media ought to aks itself too.

This was a TV show, and it dejected me.